EFFECTIVE COMUNICATION IN COUPLE

EFFECTIVE COMUNICATION IN COUPLE

I´m going to talk about the effective comunication in couples, to start with when some behavior of your partner upset you stop for a moment to think about what exactly bothered you. First to all when you have clear ideas explain it to your partner. Do not keep it to yourself or end up with a long list of grudges accumulated.

Please note that each person understands things their own way and there is no reason that your partner has to understand things your way.

Instead of focusing on how wrong she is your partner, how unfair it is or how much it bothers your posture, focus on the fact that what happens is that there is a difference between you and you have to work to resolve .

Listen to your partner, try to understand their point of view. If you insist on contradicting or require to take your position, only conseguiréis yourself away, whereas if you show a genuine interest and respect for their point of view, more likely to have to listen to you that your positions and approach rather than away.

Secondly, do all the questions necessary to fully understand your position, try to put yourself in their place, find out what you feel and make sure you understand you stating what you think it means.

Once you have understood try to find common ground. For example, if you like to spend money and enjoy it while you have it, but for your partner is very important to save, you can decide that you are going to save a predetermined amount each month and what that amount exceeds what you can spend on leisure activities.

Please note that sometimes your partner may not be clear what happens. Help him to find out.

And Finally, Do not try to attempt to solve the problems of your partner before you have heard and understood what is happening and what he feels. Then offer your help or advice if you want. Note that you may just want your support and understanding that not resolve the issue.

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