Carta con métodos de comunicación asertiva

Defensiveness Letters Assignment

Letter 1

My dear John:

I do not know why you're acting this way, I just know you've made a big mistake. You always tell me that I do not give you the freedom to do your things, but you always want to be away from home. You even put work over your family and that bothers me a lot. Here I am the only one who suffers, you look so serene, you do not care about anything anymore. So many years wasted by your stupid idea of being free, I want you to know that I am so sorry for this, I am sorry to get angry with you, but you must change your priorities.

I hate you, you always make me cry. You are insensitive, I do not want to see you anymore. I get tired from now on I will never touch the subject again, my heart will be an ice floe.

Forgive me for everything, but here the only victim is me!

Sincerely

Susan

Letter 2

My dear John:

I know you're hurt as much as I am now. I hope you can forgive me for all the offenses that I have lashed against you. I know that no one is perfect and we both have hurt each other in the depths of our hearts.

Maybe if you think we can meet to talk and find a middle ground between our needs. You want more freedom, I want to spend more time together.

At this moment I think that our now and our future can improve, if we only work together. I still love you, you are a great man, so I decided to be by your side at all times and places.

I hope you can schedule a meeting with me to talk and reach an agreement.

Remember that we have come to this earth for the purpose of being happy

Sincerely

Susan

Analysis comparing the two letters.

In letter 1 the person is aggressive, feels victim and only accuses without taking responsibility for their actions. Reference is made to past and continuous events "Always", verbal aggressions are notorious.

In letter 2 The person recognizes his responsibility in the conflict, seeks to negotiate, avoids using verbal aggression, is assertive. Base your communication on negotiation, look for win-win in the relationship.

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