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Mapario20 de Septiembre de 2014
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Everybody lies. That's an universal truth, and so is that everyone hates lies; a complete paradox don't you think? It is something pretty natural, lies make life simplier, happier and in some cases, kind of magic; Have you heard about Santa or The Tooth Fairy? Lies help us to connect fantasy and reality, dreams and actions.
81% of people said "Harmless lies" at least once a day, and they are also 3 types of accepted lies: “small exaggerations”, “Things you can hide” and “Idealized things that might happen”.
BUT, lying is not the right thing to do, and it is even worse when you lie about important things. But dont worry, today I am not going to tell you what kind of terrible person you are or try to make you change the way you express yourself, Today I am going to tell you HOW TO SPOT A LIE.
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The average person can distinguish the truth from a lie just 54% of the time, but there are some tips that can help you to improve yourself in the art of catching lies.
Meet Jolene, she is a sweet 3 year-old kid who is being accused by her older brother for breaking a plate. She is swearing she didn't do a thing but in the other hand, Steve is saying "Yes, mom, she did" so she says: “Sweetheart, look me in the eye and tell me the truth, did you break that plate?” And that’s it! That’s how our parents unconsciously teach us to see people in the eyes in order to know if someone is saying the truth.
Intuitively, this makes sense. People who feel embarrassed avoid eye contact; People who feel ashamed, avoid eye contact. However, it does come as a surprise that research shows there is no connection between lying and the amount of eye contact between the liar and the target of the lie. In fact, research demonstrates that liars maintain more deliberate eye contact than do truthful people in order to compensate the lie. So, The next time someone looks you in the eyes and tells you something that is too good to be true, it might actually be too good to be true.
Sometimes smiling works as a mask, helping us to hide our truth emotions or feelings; faking a smile is kind of easy, right? But so it is to differentiate a false from a real. If you want to, you can contract the muscles in your cheeks, but the real smile is in the eyes, and they cannot be consciously contracted
Another hack: “Hey, Paz! Did you received my message yesterday?” “Did I received your message yesterday?”… Repeating a question is a mechanism to prepare my deceptive reply, it helps gaining time for inventing an excuse. In natural conversation, we sometimes repeat part of a question, but all of it is kind of unnecessary.
The way a person talks gives you a lot of clues: Liars tend to avoid exclusionary words like “but,” “nor,” “except,” and “whereas,” because they have trouble with complex thought processes. Also, they are less likely to use the words “I,” “me,” and “mine.” In their attempts to distance themselves psychologically from their tall tales, liars will tend to communicate using fewer personal pronouns. For this, let’s see this example: **********Video of Bill Clinton about Monica Lewinsky**********
What can you tell about the video? First of all, he doesn’t use contractions; studies show that people who lies rather formal over informal language, they give very specific denials. We also heard distancing words: “That-Woman”; those are such red flags, and as all here we now, that time Clinton was lying.
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After all those terrible lies, let’s see some truth. The truth is that the average person is exposed to approximately 200 lies every day, including white lies, lies of omission, advertising, media coverage and others… Every time someone tells you something important, or that sound too good to be true,
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