Domestic Violence Against Men, A Quiet Reality

Introduction

When he closes his eyes, Jairo can hear the voice of Tatiana, mother of his two children and with whom he has been married for eight years. He hears Tatiana saying hey stupid, good for nothing. Even being hit on his birthday, the time when she was throwing on his head a jar full of candy that had been given as a gift at work. It looks bloody, glasses and sweet. Also he sees his son, then seven years old, yanking his pants, asking to take him away. Let them go away. Far from his mother.

Good Morning, today I am going to talk about Domestic violence against men. If you believed that only women are abused at home, you were wrong. Of course the man is a victim of violence within the home, to a lesser extent than women, but just about 40% of domestic violence is suffered by men.

Transition: First, I want to tell you how men are abused by women and how difficult is to admit this situation.

Development of speech

An abused man is one who is regularly attacked, physically or verbally, by his wife, his children or those who live with him. For the kind of patriarchal society in which we live, the woman is often the one who is abused. It is hard to admit for men, we can say that a man claims for obvious reasons. It is assumed that the man should not reveal their feelings or suffering, especially when the suffering is caused by the abuse of a woman, because that would label them "effeminate". Due to that fact, the man is forced to repress his feelings, as he was taught to do since childhood with phrases like:

"Men do not cry."

"Men do not complain."

"It is man who wears the pants." These are some of the lessons that are given from an early age in the home, which itself carries dual consequences: That can become the "executioner" of women, and be violent and authoritarian. 1. One may suffer quietly from abuse suffered at the hands of her partner, out of shame or fear of criticism from friends and family, no complaint. Mistreatment of women can never be justified, but it is just that abused men have a voice in this issue. Although we speak of this in a low voice, it is a real problem, and there is a subject in which a man hardly dares to complain, because they prefer to hold it "as a good man.

Think for a moment that men have feelings just like us women, even though in the majority of cases are about women abused by men also suffer physical and emotional abuse. While men haven’t got the entitlement to abuse women, neither does any woman have the entitlement to abuse a man.

Abused men is a taboo subject, a subject that in most cases we are surprised or distressed to hear, and we take for reply a phrase male chauvinists say. It's exactly that mentality that leads to abused men by women is seen as a joke and a loser, rather than a victim. Because women are weak and men are strong, because

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